Neelam Kothari Soni never imagined that life after fifty could be so fabulous. The reality show Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives, produced by Karan Johar, has not only rejuvenated her career but has also introduced her to a new, younger audience. “I did films back in the ’80s and ’90s. Now at 54, being relevant to Gen X, Gen Y and even to children and older people is a huge achievement,” she beams with pride. The show’s blend of glamour, candid moments and the daily lives of Bollywood’s elite has turned Neelam into a household name once again. Beyond the fame, this surge in popularity has had a tangible impact on her ventures. Her jewellery and interior designing business has experienced significant growth, capitalising on the newfound attention. Neelam’s journey is a testament to the idea that reinvention knows no age and her story inspires others to embrace their passions at any stage of life. As she navigates this exciting chapter, her enthusiasm is palpable, proving that life can indeed get more fabulous with each passing year.

The third season of Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives, now intriguingly titled Fabulous Lives Vs Bollywood Wives, promises to be an exciting showdown. This season features a ‘glam-fueled face-off’ between the original Mumbai crew and three new powerhouses: Delhi stylist and entrepreneur Riddhima Kapoor Sahni, luxury silverware designer Kalyani Saha Chawla, and art collector Shalini Passi. Neelam shares her enthusiasm, stating, “This time we have three new women on the show. So, the conversations and the settings are different.” The dynamic between the two cities adds a fresh layer to the narrative, highlighting contrasting styles and sensibilities. What sets this season apart is the unscripted nature of the interactions. “Everything is spontaneous. We were just told where we’d be shooting and the beat required. It’s up to us what we bring to the table,” She explains, dubbing the experience a ‘joyride.’ This format not only enhances authenticity but also allows for genuine connections and reactions, making for engaging viewing. With the blend of glamour and real-life drama, audiences can expect a captivating exploration of friendship, rivalry and the unique flair that each participant brings to the show.

“In the earlier seasons, I did restrain myself. But in season 3, you’ll see a totally different side of me,” the actor reveals, hinting at a significant transformation in her approach. Known for her mild-mannered demeanour, she typically steers clear of controversy. However, this season promises a dramatic shift. “Usually, I run away from conflict. But if there’s controversy pertaining to something close to my heart, then I don’t hold back. I give it my all,” she admits. The chemistry among Neelam, Maheep Kapoor, Bhavna Pandey  and Seema Kiran Sajdeh has made it easy for them to translate their real-life friendships onto the screen. “We’ve been old friends for a long time. With time, you realise you’ve passed the age of making new friends. After working together, our understanding and bond have reached another level,” she explains. This strong foundation allows them to portray their dynamics authentically.

In an industry often marked by fragile friendships, the entrepreneur reflects on what keeps their group together. “From day one, there’s been no one-upmanship, no competition between us. We genuinely enjoy one another’s company. No one tries to outdo the other. We celebrate our individualities and that’s exactly what comes across on screen as well.” This spirit of camaraderie not only enhances the show’s appeal but it also showcases a refreshing perspective on female friendships, emphasising support and authenticity in an otherwise competitive environment. She acknowledges that while skirmishes do occasionally arise, they are swiftly resolved. “In case there’s a misunderstanding, which is natural, you need another person to intervene and become the mediator between the two,” she confides. This approach highlights the importance of communication and support within their friendship circle. She reflects on the rarity of such deep connections: “You don’t come across friendships like ours. We cherish it.” For her, the foundation of these relationships lies in mutual love and understanding. “When you love a friend or a family member and vice versa, it’s okay to make mistakes, as long as you overcome them, ride the tide and are there for each other.” This philosophy not only strengthens their bond but it also serves as a valuable lesson in navigating relationships, underscoring the importance of forgiveness and resilience in maintaining lasting friendships.

Neelam knows that star wives often evoke envy with their seemingly postcard-perfect lives—filled with exotic getaways, glamorous social media posts and designer privileges. However, she insists that they too, experience their share of lows and disappointments. “There’s glamour and glitz around us, but we have rough days as well,” she explains. She shares a poignant example from her own life: “I was shooting for two shows simultaneously. I had to rush from the outdoors of Made In Heaven in Alwar to Jawai in Rajasthan for Fabulous Lives Of Bollywood Wives season 2. During that time, my daughter Ahana was ill and hospitalised and so was my dad. It was a challenging and difficult time.” Despite these personal struggles, Neelam reflects on the need for resilience in the face of adversity. “But as they say, the show must go on. You have to put up a brave front. A commitment is a commitment.”

Her ability to balance professional obligations with personal challenges underscores the reality that behind the glamour lies a human experience filled with both joy and hardship. Neelam’s candidness serves as a reminder that everyone, regardless of their public persona, faces difficulties and must find ways to navigate them with strength and grace. Despite the challenges, Neelam reflects on her journey with gratitude. “Doing a reality show at this stage of our lives is special. Good, bad, ugly… we’re being judged. Showing every side of your personality… your anger, vulnerabilities and insecurities is not easy,” she admits. This exposure can be daunting, but it also allows for authenticity and deeper connections with viewers. Neelam has been praised for the sense of decorum she brings to a format that often thrives on unfiltered expression. “I’m told I keep it dignified,” she shares, attributing this quality to her upbringing. “I’ve imbibed this from my parents. They always said, that no matter what you do, do it with grace and dignity.” Her commitment to maintaining this grace, even in the face of scrutiny, sets her apart and reinforces her belief in the importance of authenticity tempered with respect. Her approach not only enhances her personal brand but it also serves as a model for others navigating the sometimes chaotic world of reality television.

We live in the age of social media likes and the actor acknowledges that with praise comes a fair share of toxicity. Although she has received compliments for her charm and style, she finds it hurtful when trolls label her as ‘aunty’. “It’s not cool to call anyone ‘aunty.’ It’s rude and obnoxious,” she expresses candidly. Neelam challenges those who use the term derogatorily, questioning, “I’d like to see what trolls and those who call me an ‘aunty’ look like when they’re my age, or what their moms look like.” Her frustration stems from the broader implications of such labels. “Why use the word ‘aunty’ in a derogatory way? We all will age,” she points out. She, along with her co-stars Seema, Maheep, and Bhavna, has managed to connect with viewers over two seasons, sharing their lives and issues in a relatable way. “Now to have XYZ call us ‘aunties’ is not cool at all,” she asserts. We agree. She emphasises the courage it takes to put oneself out there in the public eye and calls for a shift in perspective. “How about appreciating us instead of looking down on us?” Her words resonate with the importance of respect and recognition, challenging societal norms about ageing and the judgments that come with it. Her stance advocates for celebrating individuality and resilience, rather than diminishing it with hurtful labels.

Staying positive is at the core of Neelam’s life philosophy. She explains, “Kindness and goodwill will take you a long way. That’s what my parents taught me.” This foundational belief shapes her interactions and is something she hopes to pass on to her daughter, Ahana. “I want her to respect people, be kind and remain down-to-earth,” She shares. She also credits her husband, Samir Soni, as a vital source of strength in her life. “Samir respects what I do. He lets me be and encourages me,” she says, highlighting their supportive partnership. Neelam confides that while she tends to approach him with larger issues rather than small problems, his insights are invaluable. “He offers a sane and sound solution. I can be rash in my decisions and jump to conclusions but he’s calm and sorted,” she notes.

Above all, she praises him for being a wonderful father, adding another layer to their relationship. “Doesn’t that make my life even more fabulous?” she asks, reflecting on how the combination of love, respect and partnership contributes to her overall happiness. Neelam’s outlook showcases that true fulfilment comes from both personal and familial connections, reinforcing the idea that a supportive environment enhances one’s journey through life.